Journal to Share
Play it Forward Vacations
Last year about this time I began talking about "staycations" and how staying
home for your vacation can be a very beneficial experience. Just taking some
time off to catch up on sleep — in your own, familiar bed — may be benefit
enough.
Last year my daughter, Lonni, took a week off to stay home and de-clutter her
space. She boxed up items for Goodwill and deep cleaned her entire home.
Cleaning may not be your cup of tea for vacation, but for my daughter, it was
very relaxing and rewarding to spend a couple days cleaning and the rest just
relaxing in an organized environment.
A new trend in vacations has come to my attention. It seems to be the perfect
choice for those who have the travel bug and need a change of scenery.
Oftentimes it comes with a discount, and every time it comes with a rewarding
experience. It's called a "volunteer vacation."
That's right. Organizations currently exist that can plan your entire trip to
another town, another state or another country. You can visit amazing places,
make new friends and see new cultures while you labor for a good cause. Look up
Habitat for Humanity, the American Hiking Society, International Volunteer HQ,
PLAY it Forward Adventures or Google "volunteer vacations" to find more
opportunities.
Spring Awakening
Do you have spring energy? Have the flowers and birds and sunshine breathed new
life into you after a gloomy winter? Do you feel like cleaning, playing, working
in the garden, pulling weeds, doing fun projects? Or not so much … maybe you
have spring allergies and you'd rather hide in the house behind a tissue, away
from the pollen and the dust.
I hope you are able to enjoy the season and the showing of colors in your area
and get lots accomplished. My gardens and all the activity on the farm is enough
to invigorate me, and get me moving toward one project or another. If you are
having some trouble re-energizing this spring, I have a few ideas that never
fail to put a smile on my face. Try something new to awaken your spirit …
- Pick one area in your home and de-clutter until you are satisfied.
- Invite the neighbors over for a potluck barbecue, which will inspire you to
finally clean the grill.
- Pick a shady spot outdoors or a cozy chair on your porch and read an uplifting
novel.
- Shop your local outdoor market for fresh veggies, gorgeous flowers, and handmade
goodies like soaps and spices.
- Surprise someone with a small gift, such as an herb planter or a living bouquet.
- Make lemonade, from scratch! And invite a friend to be your taste tester.
- Surround yourself with beauty and check out some of my
favorite artists, and a
few of my own paintings too.
- Buy or build a composter and learn an easy way to become more earth friendly.
Let's celebrate spring together. Send me an email to explain how you re-energize
this time of year. I would love to share your clever ideas with fellow readers
of my daily newsletter. And while you're at it, put in a request or dedication
for someone you love.
Pondering Faith at Easter
This is the season of Lent and many people of faith are looking forward to celebrating
Easter Sunday. Practicing the rituals of Lent can strengthen your faith but you
know what else can do that? Being open and honest with God. Being real, being transparent
and being aware that the One who created you loves you the way you are. He cares
about the intimate details of your life, every moment of your life.
I was talking with a friend of mine who was sick and I said I would pray for him
to feel better. He replied, "God's got better things to do than worry about
my cold." God is our father … He worries about our colds as any good father
would. The cool thing about God is He is everywhere and He is capable of working
on all things, from big to small.
I can't imagine what it would be like to live in these times if I didn't
have my faith. If I didn't know that God has a plan for me, for my family and
those that I love. I couldn't face the day if I didn't know that to be true.
I know every stinking day I wake up I'm going to have blessings in my life.
My children, their smiles, my grandkids, their laughter, challenges and opportunities…
If you're feeling overwhelmed by the world tonight, God has a plan for you.
It may not look like it right now but He does. No matter what you're going thru
there is a reason you're going thru it. Walk by faith. Count your blessings.
Keep praying.
Resurrection Cookies
What a wonderful recipe to share with children while teaching them the story of
the resurrection. These cookies are made the evening before Easter Sunday and cooked
in a warm oven overnight so they will be ready in the morning.
Ingredients:
- 3 egg whites
- 1 cup whole pecans
- 1 teaspoon vinegar
- 1 cup sugar
- a pinch of salt
- a zip-lock bag
- a wooden spoon
- wax paper
- cookie sheet
- tape
- Bible
Instructions:
- You need to preheat oven to 300 degrees. This is important
— don't wait until you are half done with the recipe. Place pecans in zip-lock
bag and let children beat them with the wooden spoon to break into small pieces.
Explain that after Jesus was arrested, He was beaten by the Roman soldiers. Read
John 19:1-3.
- Let each child smell the vinegar. Put 1 tsp. vinegar
into mixing bowl. Explain that when Jesus was thirsty on the cross, He was given
vinegar to drink. Read John 19:28-30.
- Add egg whites to vinegar. Eggs represent life. Explain
that Jesus gave His life to give us life. Read John 10:10-11.
- Sprinkle a little salt into each child's hand. Let
them taste it and brush the rest into the bowl. Explain that this represents the
salty tears shed by Jesus' followers, and the bitterness of our own sin. Read
Luke 23:27.
- So far, the ingredients are not very appetizing. Add
1 cup sugar. Explain that the sweetest part of the story is that Jesus died because
He loves us. He wants us to know and belong to Him. Read Psalm 34:8 and John 3:16.
- Beat with a mixer on high speed for 12 to 15 minutes
until stiff peaks are formed. Explain that the color white represents the purity
in God's eyes of those whose sins have been cleansed by Jesus. Read Isaiah 1:18
and John 3:1-3.
- Fold in broken nuts. Drop by teaspoons onto wax paper
covered cookie sheet. Explain that each mound represents the rocky tomb where Jesus'
body was laid. Read Matthew 27:57-60.
- Put the cookie sheet in the oven, close the door and
turn the oven OFF. Give each child a piece of tape and seal the oven door. Explain
that Jesus' tomb was sealed. Read Matthew 27:65-66.
- GO TO BED! Explain that they may feel sad to leave the
cookies in the oven overnight. Explain that Jesus' followers were in despair
when the tomb was sealed. Read John 16:20 and 22.
- On Easter morning, open the oven and give everyone a
cookie. Notice the cracked surface and take a bite. Surprisingly, the cookies are
hollow! Jesus' followers were amazed to find the tomb open and empty. Jesus
had risen! Read Matthew 28:1-9.
~Author Unknown
(Sent in by Sabrina)
Building Healthy Habits
A few of the girls on my staff are invested in a month-long competition to see who
can lose the most weight. I wasn't able to coax any specifics from the girls
about their progress but I have heard they are gaining… a valuable lesson
in willpower and restraint. It's not easy to diet, I know! Even just a pound
or two shed is cause for major celebration! And by celebration I don't mean
indulging in a big, thick piece of chocolate cake. That's where the willpower
and restraint come in handy.
What the girls did share with me were tips they find to be working so far. And since
many of you listeners have emailed your tips I thought I would share a few here:
- Lonni overcame her late-night cravings and she no longer
eats within two hours of her bedtime. She also eats her biggest meals early in the
day and eats lighter fare as the day goes on.
- Our resident gymaholic, Jenna, said her trick is to
keep up the cardio. It can be as easy as walking the dog to running on the treadmill,
joining a group of gals at step aerobics, or working out at home to a dance DVD.
- Missy had to slooooow down. She likes to eat and she
likes to eat fast! It's a wonder she can even taste anything as it goes down.
So she's vowed to slow down and enjoy every bite, thus getting full before she's
even cleaned her plate.
- Miss Leisa is wisely substituting ingredients for healthier
options. Instead of eating her normal turkey sandwich for lunch, she substitutes
the bread for a low-carb tortilla wrap. She adds a little bit of mayo or mustard,
lots of lettuce and some low-fat turkey. Enjoy with string cheese and carrots instead
of potato chips.
- Kari from Arkansas is cutting out fried foods for a
month! She says it's hard but she is seeing the pounds shed and her skin improve
too!
- Melanie from Virginia claims to have the perfect snack:
low-fat yogurt, granola and fresh berries!
- Tim from Oregon vowed to fill half of his dinner plate
with veggies and/or salad. The other half is totally open for whatever he wants
to eat with it.
- Shauna from South Dakota said even though it's hard to do, she steps on the
scale every day. It's like a reset button reminding her the day is fresh and
full of choices.
If you've got a tip for the girls in my studio, I (they) would love to read
them. Send an email to D@Delilah.com and tell
us what's working for you!
Moooved to Paint
I can't believe March is already here. You know
what I did to welcome the first weekend in March? I stayed home. That's right,
I barely left the house. I had my kids, friends of my kids and four of my grandkids
over. We sort of took it easy — as easy as we can with a houseful of kids
— and just hung around the house.
I painted this past weekend, which is another reason I stayed home. I get so lost
in my art that time just seems to slip by without me noticing. I have a new cow
named Gypsy who was the inspiration behind my artwork this weekend. I've churned
so much Gypsy butter, I'm starting to dream about it! And paint about it, as
you can see.
I love to paint. I love to do anything creative. I love to do any arts and crafts
project that involves making a mess! And I like to paint in my kitchen of all places.
So my kitchen island which was designed, built and installed so I could do a lot
of cooking was taken over by the easel, the brushes and the acrylics this weekend.
I hope if you like to do creative things you give yourself time to do them. Set
aside time in your busy world to be able to create. The more I create, whether it's
painting or sculpting or writing, the more I'm in touch with myself, my heart,
my soul and my Creator. And because of that, the better I am at everything else
I do.
My Time in Buduburam
I landed in Accra, Ghana on a Monday morning.
By Monday afternoon, I was making the 50-mile drive from the city to the
Buduburam Refugee Camp. My foundation, Point Hope, has been working there for
five years, designing education and nutrition programs for the residents.
After meeting with the camp commandant and the social welfare officer, who
filled me in on current events in the camp, I hurried to the children's ward of
the medical clinic. My heart aches all year long to hold those children in my
arms again, and pray for their health and well-being. As painful as it is to
witness a child who is starving or dying from disease, I weep with praise to God
when one gets delivered to our clinic so that we might save them in time.
Shortly thereafter, I had the pleasure of introducing a 1-year-old baby boy to
one of my producers, Leisa, who is in the process of legally adopting him. The
tearful and emotional meeting of mother and child, accompanied by his biological
mother who is giving him for adoption, was a blessed event. Leisa may not have
birthed her son, but the two are meant to be together.
Throughout the day I continued to visit with people as I strolled thru the dusty
streets of the camp. Kind and loving folks, they greeted me with warm smiles and
huge hugs and introduced me to their loved ones. One woman introduced me to her
newborn daughter, Delilah. I was able to visit with the mother while coddling my
namesake, and I delivered some clothes and blankets that little Delilah very
much needed.
I ended the day by examining the fetching stations where fresh water is now
available. I witnessed hundreds of residents filling large buckets of clean,
disease-free water for their families. Having seen the before when there was
nothing but toxic streams to drink and bathe from, it was an awesome sight to
behold and I was literally speechless as I drank it in.
On Tuesday, I spent some time walking what I could of the 125 acre camp to see
each and every fetching station and take in some of the positive feedback from
the residents. As I wandered about, I began distributing clothes and supplies
from the nine suitcases I filled prior to my trip. I dispersed the 525 pounds of
goods to various individuals in the camp who could use them. That night, I
visited a family friend in Accra who has transformed her life from refugee
status to mother-student-homemaker after lots of hard work and help from
neighbors.
I spent Wednesday at the camp again, and witnessed several Point Hope programs
in process. I toured a vocational school where women learn to make fabrics. I
checked out the nutrition center where children are given regular, healthy meals
when their families cannot provide for them. I had a meeting with officials
representing the medical clinic and a non-profit organization that provides
nurses and a doctor to the clinic. We assessed the needs of the clinic and
committed our resources to hiring another doctor. The nurses and doctors
currently on staff are among the most devoted I've seen. They have truly blessed
the people of Buduburam with a second chance at life.
On Thursday, I met with a Ghanaian government official about the camp's
continued status, and then visited the camp to inspect the 5 acres of land I
purchased for residents to farm their own land and grow their own produce. I
visited a student library where Point Hope provided more than 3000 books to fill
the shelves. I visited a church and preached alongside a minister, espousing my
belief in God's work at the camp, and offering a testimonial.
I finished the day by handing out more gifts to residents and providing some
items that would aid the volunteer neighborhood watch team as well as students
at the school of carpentry. The day was long but I was inspired by all the
progress I had seen up to this point. I was inspired by how far we've come in
just five years. And I was thankful God led me to this place to be His servant
for these people.
My time in Buduburam was well spent, and I was able to see how the presence of
Point Hope is making a real difference in the lives of thousands of people. I
look forward to my next visit with hope that each of our education, nutrition
and water programs will be expanded. With God's grace and the help of generous
people, we can save lives in Africa. If you would like to know more about my
foundation and make a donation today, please visit
www.PointHope.org.
Happy New Year 2009!
A new year is upon us, and I don't know many who are sorry to see 2008 come
to a close. In fact, I think many are hoping that when the ball drops in Times Square,
the economic woes that are plaguing the nation, indeed the world, will begin to
subside. And the country would not only have a new president and a new cabinet,
but also a new financial reality. I think we all know that is not the case, but
it's fun to imagine!
As we embrace the positive changes we hope to see take place, let's also face
the realities of where we are with hope and even joy!
When the power goes off at my farm my kids are thrilled! Instead of complaining
about the TV or computer going off, they race to find flashlights and candles and
insist I build a fire, and cook on the top of my fireplace insert! They love telling
stories by candlelight and enjoying some of the simple things in life.
To be honest, I'm kind of excited about some of the positive changes I've
already seen in my community and others due to the recession. Friends reaching out
to help friends, neighbors helping neighbors. Kids who are used to getting the latest
electronic toy or gadget being told "no." Women I know who already have
a dozen designer bags realizing they can't afford to waste any money on one
more purse.
My mom used to wipe off the aluminum foil and fold it neatly and use it again, and
sometimes again.... My dad fixed everything that broke, from toasters to washing
machines, cars to eye glasses. I am not minimizing the tragic situation that millions
of people are faced with because of the recession world wide, but I'm happy
to see people being more practical, less wasteful, more thoughtful and less egocentric.
So save your aluminum foil and start thinking about planting a garden in spring
and reach out to bless a neighbor in need! Happy New Year!
The Lord is my Shepherd
Three of my five young children are all in the same contained classroom. Their
teacher came up with a very clever way for the kids to relate to Psalm 23, The
Lord is my Shepherd. Mrs. Hove had the kids make sheep puppets and recite the
psalm as little lambs, "baaahing" as they spoke!
Psalm 23 has been a comfort to many throughout the ages. While on an
entertainment tour in Iraq I met a wounded soldier at the military hospital who
shared that when he was wounded by a bomb, he stayed conscious and waited for
help by reciting Psalm 23:
The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures.
He leads me beside still waters.
He restores my soul.
He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies;
you anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
all the days of my life,
and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord
forever.
Have you ever been in a terrible crisis and recited this poem in order to find
peace? If so I'd love to read and share your story. Write to me
here and let me know
how your soul has been restored.
Real Life Heroes
I have a good news story to share. Every day that I read newspapers or catch up with news stories online, I am assaulted with terrible stories of man's inhumanity to man. As a mother, my heart is sickened when I read the sad stories. My oldest son is a police officer, making my heart even more pained as I read these kind of reports.
But today, I was encouraged and thrilled to meet real life heroes and have a story to report of my own that ended not in tragedy, but in good!
I had a long 80 mile trip today, and was driven by a former police officer friend, Paul. Shortly into the trip, we noticed a car driving erratically in front of us. His police background kicked into gear and instead of ignoring the situation he dropped his speed and put us in a safe position behind the driver. Less than a mile later, the erratically driven car swerved and hit the lane barrier in the middle of the freeway. The erratic driver, a woman, bounced back into traffic and nearly hit struck a van full of kids. I called 911 and reported the driver, giving the dispatcher our location and a description of the car. The dispatcher shared that she had already received another call, and as I looked to my right, I noted two men next to us, one of them on the phone. They put their emergency blinkers on to signal others, and got into position behind the crazy driver, waving off other cars that might draw too near.
The woman hit the median again, and careened back into traffic at an even higher speed, before hitting the median a third time and spinning one more time. When state troopers could catch up with her as she was exiting the freeway, she stumbled out of the car insisting she was not drunk. The officers pursued the conversation and I was impressed with the way they handled a tough situation and kept her from hurting herself and others on the road. I was also impressed and very grateful with the two young heroes that cautioned so many drivers on the freeway. One of the two men, a father of two young babies, said that all he could think of when he was trying to protect others on the road was if his family was in one of cars she was bashing in to or nearly careening with. The officers, the two young men and my friend all deserve to be recognized for caring deeply about others on the road.
If you have a drinking problem, get help. If you are too sick or too stubborn to get help, stay off the road. Like this woman exampled, her drunk driving nearly killed many children and adults. No one deserves to have their life taken or impaired because someone thinks they have to right to drink and drive. You may call me a Mother Against Drunk Driving any time, and today I witnessed a perfect example why at the same time I witnessed several true heroes, in and out of uniform.
A New Love in My Life
I have a new male in my life! He is tall and dark, and very handsome…. He is a Friesian, a great big, beautiful black horse measuring almost 17 hands, or about 68 inches tall. His previous owner gave him the name Willam and I have adapted that to Samson Willam, so as a pair we are now Samson and Delilah.
Of course I found him on Craigslist, one of my favorite places on the Internet. When I met him I fell in love with him, and I had to have him in my life. He is 9 years old and he had never been ridden before I brought him home. I rode horses as a child, but I am not particularly well-trained, so Samson and I have begun training together with a gal who lives down the road.
I love taking him on trail rides through the tall trees in the early morning. When the rays of sunshine peek through the lush canopy I feel so at peace in my surroundings and so connected to this amazing animal who takes me down the path.
True to his name—and his long, thick mane—Samson definitely makes himself known as the alpha male when he is in the company of other horses. He is docile and quiet, but I think his size makes him a natural intimidator, and he is never bothered or threatened by horses of a lesser stature.
Though he is tall and brawny, Samson is a gentle riding partner, and I can tell we are a match that was meant to be—learning and growing together. And I can promise that, quite unlike the biblical story, this Delilah is very much in love with her Samson.
Superhero Kids!
Last weekend I took my younger children: Zack, Thomas, Angel, Blessing, Shaylah and my granddaughter Jayla along with my older children and a few friends to the beach. While the adults were working hard to clean out a beach house and set up furniture the kids were getting into all sorts of trouble and arguing at the top of their young lungs, until my daughter Angel and son Zack got creative with the empty furniture boxes!
Within about 10 minutes the arguing stopped and the four youngest kids were busy creating exciting costumes of armor and royalty with cardboard and duct tape. Crowns, shields, body armor and even weapons became a part of their imagination, and for the next several hours my four whirling dervishes played and laughed and scripted out incredible tales of heroes and villains...some were medieval characters, others space invaders but all were occupied, entertained, cooperating and having fun instead of arguing over who drank the last juice box!!
Wishes of the Heart
My thoughts on Debbie Macomber's inspiring new book, Twenty Wishes.
A must-have on your list of books to read this summer.
For the last several weeks I've talked about Debbie Macomber's new book,
Twenty Wishes on my radio show. I actually invited Debbie to come on
the show and talk a bit about the book, and together we were able to grant three
wishes for our listeners. We had originally decided on granting one wish, but after
the dozens of amazing letters we received, we selected three and made some special
wishes come true.
The book isn't a how-to book; it's a sweet story about a group of friends,
all widows, who jointly decide to make a list of 20 wishes that were deep in their
hearts. Similar to the list of things Jamie Sullivan in the movie, "A Walk
to Remember" wanted to accomplish before she passed on. Jamie declared she
wanted to be in two places at one time, so her thoughtful boyfriend took her to
a state line and had her stand with her feet on both sides of the line. Also similar
to the goals determined by the elderly men in the more recent movie "The Bucket
List."
I've never been a list maker. Debbie Macomber not only writes about the list
with 20 wishes, she has one. She has lists of things to accomplish, tasks to attend
to and more. She is a consummate list maker; I am a consummate list loser. Even
when I bother to make a list, I lose it shortly thereafter. I can't hold onto
a grocery list between my house and the store and often return home with pickled
beets when I went for milk and bread and eggs!
But the sweet thing about this book that spoke to my heart, is how easy it is to
put aside our wishes, our secret dreams and desires, while we are busy making other
plans. I have been blessed in that most of the things I have dreamed or endeavored
to do in my life, I have been able to do. Unlike many others I know, I have never
let someone else's opinion of what I should be doing or how I should be living,
get in my way of having fun! I took my uncomfortable shoes off when I was touring
the White House many years ago, and walked around the great halls, barefoot. Later
the same day I sat my weary bum down on a padded bench in front of a copy of the
Declaration of Independence and nursed my infant daughter. Barefoot.
I've gone horseback riding in the rain, and skinny dipping more than once. I've
slid down banisters and climbed up stairs that were marked "Closed to the Public"
just to see where they led. I've eaten rodents sold on the roadside in Africa,
and grown my own vegetables and fruit for years. I've met Bette Midler and interviewed
Elton John, Barbra Streisand, Billy Joel, Paul McCartney and Sting. I've had
dinner at my farm with Wynonna Judd and woken up to find Danny Bedingfield stepping
out of my shower in a towel.
When I've had wishes in my heart I never considered them something I should
push aside or forget about, rather quite the opposite. I have always raised my kids
to believe in making wishes and then trying to make them come true. I love it when
they want to catch a turtle or build a fort or camp under the stars. My friends
and the babysitters I have hired over the years probably think I'm crazy when
I rush outside to find a coffee can to hold the latest garden snake the kids caught,
or to punch holes in a lid for the jar that holds a slew of frog eggs. My daughter,
Angel, who joined our family just two months ago from a refugee camp in West Africa,
has a deep wish to hold a wild squirrel. (She is fascinated that we don't hunt
and roast wild creatures at my farm; in her village a squirrel would have been a
lovely meal for a family.) She wants to care for wild creatures who are ill or harmed,
and I know her wish will come true and God will allow her to nurture some wild creature
back to health so it can return to the woods some day.
Daughter Shaylah has a wish to see the Broadway musical "Wicked." She
knows the entire soundtrack by heart, not just the lyrics, but each note of each
song. Zacky wants to dance on TV; TK's secret wish is to reconnect with his
birthmother some day. Blessing's is to be a real princess!
I have been thinking a great deal about what I would put on a list of my heart's
wishes; as I said, most of my life's wishes have already come true. Definitely
a trip to the Grand Canyon-not to stand on the edge and look down-but an actual
trip down into the Grand Canyon, to meet the native people that still live there
and to see the beauty and the majesty of God's handiwork. To take a cruise thru
the waters of Alaska and see the whales and porpoise frolicking in the icy waters,
and to paint the pictures I have in my head of flowers and roosters and children
playing on the farm.
Take out a piece of paper. Write down your heart's wishes. Not goals or desires,
not something you just achieve, but a wish your heart makes. Then ask God to help
them to come true! If you want to share your list with me or Debbie, send them to
us and we will find a forum in which to post your list of 20 wishes! Delilah
At Home in Nature
I am on a plane, returning home from a speaking engagement. I've been fortunate
that I have not had to travel much the past few months since I brought my newly
adopted daughters, Angel and Blessing, home from Africa. I have only been gone two
nights, but I am anxious to get home to them and my other three young children who
still live at home. I miss them all. As exciting and glamorous as it is for me to
stay in an elegant hotel such as the Four Seasons and have people treat me like
a rock star, I'd rather be at home listening to my two boys fight over who gets
to be the hero in their make-believe quest to defend the universe… and hearing
my daughter Shaylah fuss at her younger sister for ruining her lipstick.
In a heartbeat they will be grown and making their own way in the world, as their
older siblings are. But while they are young and in my home, I do my best to sew
costumes, build tree houses, tell stories under the stars and give them the freedom
to explore the woods and streams, while giving them strong enough parameters to
keep them safe. At least that is my hope.
I grew up loving the dirt, the trees, the creeks and the ponds. With salamanders
and frogs and fresh eggs each day, with tree forts and trails and secrets clubs….
I would rather spend three hours in the woods, teaching my kids which berries are
edible and which ones are poisonous, which trees are sturdy enough to climb and
how to lash together limbs to build a makeshift shelter, than spend a day in a four-star
resort drinking virgin daiquiris by a pool.
My folks taught me the ways of the beavers in a pond and how to make a whistle out
of a sapling limb. Mom picked wild berries for pies and jam and made salads out
of the greens she found in the fields. Dad knew the names of the flora and the fauna,
and how to survive in the wilderness if need be. He took us swimming in rivers and
camping in the woods. Mom cooked over an open fire and taught us camp songs under
the stars.
The older I get the more I look like my mom, and the more I understand her wisdom
and her love for her four kids. I hope my children grow up with a passion for God's
great outdoors, and that they always appreciate His creative powers.
Countless Blessings
Blessings.
I have so many of them I cannot count them all; if I tried it would take me the
remainder of my days here on earth just to recall the ones I experienced in the
last few weeks. But now I have a REAL Blessing, my youngest daughter, Blessing,
joined our family in April. Blessing is 4, and the other girl I adopted is an
Angel, a REAL Angel! Angel is 13, and together they join my family and make it
an even 10 children, five girls and five boys.
Ten children sounds staggering, but one of my daughters, Lonika, was adopted as
an adult. I did not have the joy of raising her, but now I have the joy of
helping to raise her daughter, my granddaughter Jayla. Four of the children that
I did raise are grown and out of the house, leaving Shaylah, Zack and Thomas at
home. Until recently, I was a mother to three young children, and now we are
scrambling to find a van that will hold all of us!
It has been several years since I had more than three living at home, and the
three that I have been raising, although they all have special issues and
special needs, are pretty well adjusted to life on the farm and the routine that
we have. All that has changed, and "chaos" is the code word for the day now.
Blessing and Angel (Willette and Mercy when I adopted them, but they announced
they were adopting new first names, as well as last) were born and raised in a
refugee camp in Ghana, Africa.
When I started working in Africa, my heart was settled on the idea I would not
adopt more children, that I would be more effective in helping a multitude of
people if I didn't have more children that are my full-time responsibility. I
knew that I am too busy as it is to attend to all of the needs of my three
children still at home, and that I am past the age of having boundless energy to
rush to little league baseball games and soccer tournaments. I knew the LAST
thing I needed were more children to care for, considering the current demands
of my role as a single parent, a radio personality, and as the founder of Point
Hope.
I met Blessing and Angel when I was in Africa last August. I travel there at
least twice a year to work in the refugee camp that my foundation supports,
Buduburam. When I met these two girls, who are in no way related, I fell in love
with both of them. When I returned to the states, I kept seeing their faces and
remembering their stories and how tragic their young lives have been. Understand
I meet hundreds of children on each trip; Point Hope is responsible for a
feeding program that cares for starving babies and malnourished children, we
care for pregnant teenage girls and for nursing mothers. We provide medical
services to hundreds of residents of the camp, most of them single mothers. So I
am used to having a baby in each arm and one tied to my back when I am working
in the camp. I am used to falling in love with at least a dozen of these
children, and taking the time to send them special packages of clothes and gifts
upon my return home. But as I said, I had determined in my heart that after
almost 25 years of parenting, with another 10 years to go before all are
graduated from high school, I was finished stepping on Lego pieces at night as I
make my way to the bathroom. I was finished reciting "I do NOT like green eggs
and ham, I do NOT like them, Sam-I-am."... I was finished singing the alphabet
(except with my grandchildren). I was finished teaching kids how to tie shoes
and how to hold a fork and spoon. I was finished rushing to attend kindergarten
field trips. Or so I thought....
God had other plans.
So now I am parenting two girls that had never ridden in a car before I came
into their lives. They had never bathed in a tub, flushed a toilet, taken milk
from a refrigerator, slept on a bed or taken a hot shower with water warmed from
a water heater. They had never been in a swimming pool, walked on a sandy beach
or had access to food any time they were hungry. Never once in her 13 years did
Angel have a dollar of her own to spend as she pleased; Blessing never knew what
it felt like to be tucked into a clean bed at night or kissed and held by a
mother who loved her.
Today Angel went to the chicken coop after she got home from school and
collected the eggs. She put a dozen of them in a pan as I had shown her, and put
them on the stove to boil. In less than half an hour, the dozen eggs had been
reduced to six, the other six were gobbled up by Angel while they were still so
hot they were difficult to peel. Angel weighs less than 80 pounds and Blessing
is about 30. And yet these two little "imps" can eat their weight in boiled eggs
and oatmeal!
I am so tired I don't know what day of the week it is. The girls are learning
everything for the first time, so life is a constant daze for me these days. But
despite my exhaustion and my frustration at having to explain or demonstrate the
most basic of tasks that we take for granted, my face hurts from grinning so
much. Tonight I will fall asleep quickly again from sheer exhaustion, and I
shall thank the Lord for my Blessing, and my Angel of Mercy!
Reflections of Buduburam
I'm writing from a seat aboard a Delta flight, returning once again from Ghana, West Africa. Thousands of miles and a world away from the farm that I call home, Ghana has become like a second home to me the past four and a half years.
The west coast of Africa is notorious for malaria; during the slave trade it was known as "The White Man's Graveyard," because many who ventured there never returned. The locals, who have been exposed to the malaria parasite via the pesky mosquitoes that carry the deadly disease, are also at risk.
Most of the children and adults we care for in the Buduburam refugee camp are suffering from malaria. Most recover with medication; many do not.
Just as malaria gets in your blood and causes a high fever and sometimes madness, Africa and its people are in my blood and I cannot seem to rid myself of the images, both good and bad.
When I am under the sweltering sun I am painfully aware of my lack of pigmentation, and I hope the sunblock I slather on does its job. But despite the fact that I am one white face amid a thousand black faces, I never feel unsafe or even self conscious. Indeed I feel overwhelming love and respect.
I try to emulate the grace and courage of those around me, knowing I fall short.
Delilah |